Family Foundation (3):

His Divine Grace Om Vishnupad
Srila Bhakti Nirmal Acharya Maharaj,
speaking online to devotees in Caracas
1 July 2012


I am happy with all the devotees, but I am humbly requesting everybody to come together to the programme, not to look at each others' fault, not to gossip all the time, not to criticise each other, and try to control yourself. It is my humble request to you all—follow the mahajan. You should read about every mahajan's pastimes-Jiva Goswami, Rupa Goswami, Sanatan Goswami, Vallabha Acharya, Gopal Bhatta Goswami, and others.

I am actually very happy with the devotees all over the world, and especially with the Venezuelan devotees' service, preaching and everything else. But there is one thing I am unhappy about. I cannot tolerate it when devotees do not practise properly, when devotees' behaviour is not proper, and when the devotees all the time leave their husband or wife. Be careful with this.

I always bow down to those who live a family life because the family life is most useful for service, but do not leave your wife, do not leave your husband. I cannot tolerate it. If you live together, I am very happy. When you live together in a family, problem will come, but you must tolerate it. Srila Swami Maharaj used a bad word, he said, "Rascal!" He can say it because he is an old Guru, but I am I a young person, so I cannot and do not want to use this bad word.

Everybody must be careful. Teach your children by your good behaviour. If the mother and the father are good, then the children will be very good. Do you understand? I am telling this to everybody, all over the world. You must avoid living like cats and dogs and cows—you must avoid this kind of bad culture and behaviour.

And one more thing. I am telling the brahmacharies: if you love a girl, immediately get married, do not do any illegal sex before marriage. I cannot tolerate it, do you understand? If you love a girl, OK, get married, but do not live together and do illegal sex—this "living together" style is very bad, I cannot tolerate it. If somebody loves a girl, and the girl loves the boy, they can get married, but you must not live together and engage in illegal sex before marriage. This is not good. Can you understand it? Is it clear?


These are very hard words and it is very hard for everybody to digest it, is it not? It is hard to follow this, is it not?


But it is my order! Try to follow it.

I am not against married life, I am not against householder life. I do not think that everybody will be a brahmachari or everybody will be a sannyasi, but if you get married, do it in the proper way, practise an honest householder life.

—How can we get your blessing for the proper marriage life?

I am giving a blessing for the proper marriage life, but everybody must make some sacrifice—the husband must make some sacrifice, the wife must make some sacrifice, there should be no ego. If you live together, it is very nice. You can see how Indian people live, and practise in this way, properly. Everybody must be tolerant, not angry.


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